Saturday, June 15, 2013

I Cry At Weddings:

Lindal Kidd covers Second Life weddings and she always cries. Not because she's happy, but because of tragedy. She has an informal rule:
I have developed an informal Rule:  the more elaborate the SL wedding, the shorter the partnership.  It's not always true, but I have found that those who put the most emphasis on the trappings of a marriage are those who will put the least emphasis on the relationship itself.  Partnerships that begin with a huge wedding are often dissolved in a couple of months, or even weeks.  The shortest one I can remember is the one where the couple divorced the very next day...because she caught her new husband cheating with one of her bridesmaids!
What do you expect? After all that planning, there's simply nothing left to chat about. The only thing to do is split and repeat the whole process again with someone else.


  1. Earlier in my SL, I was honored to be the Maid of Honor in an SL wedding ... to find out later that the bride asked me because she thought I was shagging the groom (I wasn't). This wedding was moderately elaborate ... and I remember copying the 'vows' or ceremony because it was beautiful (I almost cried). The partnership lasted about a week. My friend, the groom, found out that one of her 12 alts was partnered. SLove ... 'sighs as she checks that one off her SL bucket list'

  2. The wedding vows sound like a literary masterpiece. I'm interested in seeing them.

    I could understand why the groom was upset over one of her alts being partnered. If she wanted to have a "second" second life, she should have went to Inworldz or some other virtual world.

    1. (There is not enough space to hold the entire ceremony ... but here is page 1 of 4.66 pages. Oh! And here is a tissue ... 'holds a Kleenex towards you.' I believed this rot at the time ... and therein lies the virtual tear I did indeed shed at this rendered event.)

      AL smiles "Greetings, on behalf of the groom and bride I would like to extend their warm welcome and thank you for sharing this moment of happiness with them." AL smiles softly at the approaching bride, as she continues, speaking on a low, yet powerful tone "Dearly beloved family and friends, We are gathered here today to celebrate one of life's greatest moments, to give recognition to the worth and beauty of love, and to add our best wishes to the words which shall unite IW and JP in marriage. AL nods slowly to the bride "Step up to the altar and join hands with your betrothed." *JP steps up to the isle, taking her place by IW’s side, both facing the minister, their hands holding onto the others tightly*
      AL smiles at the couple, taking a deep breath as she starts speaking "IW and JP have come here to make public their love for each other; to give notice to their truth; to declare their choice to live and partner and grow together - out loud and in your presence, out of their desire that we will all come to feel a very real and intimate part of their decision, and thus make it even more powerful. They've also come here tonight in the further hope that their ritual of bonding will help bring us all closer together. If you are here tonight with a spouse or partner, let this ceremony be a reminder - a re-dedication of your own loving bond."
      AL: "We'll begin by asking the question: Why get married? IW and JP have answered this question for themselves, and they've told me the answer. Now I want to ask them one more time, so they can be sure of their answer, certain of their understanding, and firm in their commitment to the truth they share." AL reaches and picks up two white roses from the table. “This is the Ceremony of Roses, in which IW and JP share their understandings, and commemorate that sharing."
      AL: "Now IW and JP, you have told me it is your firm understanding that you are not entering into this marriage for reasons of security . . . that the only real security is not in owning or possessing, nor in being owned or possessed . . . not in demanding or expecting, and not even in hoping, that what you think you need in life will be supplied by the other . . . but rather, in knowing that everything you need in life . . . all the love, all the wisdom, all the insight, all the power, all the knowledge, all the understanding, all the nurturing, all the compassion, and all the strength . . . resides within you . . . . . and that you are not marrying the other in hopes of getting these things, but in hopes of giving these gifts, that the other might have them in even greater abundance. Is that your firm understanding tonight?”
      JP: It is.
      IW: It is
      AL: "And IW and JP, you have told me it is your firm understanding you are not entering into this marriage as a means of in any way limiting, controlling, hindering, or restricting each other from any true expression and honest celebration of that which is the highest and best within you - including your love of life, your love of people, your love of creativity, your love of work, or any aspect of your being which genuinely represents you, and brings you joy. Is that still your firm understanding tonight?"

      (... and it goes on!)

    2. Thanks for coming back and posting some of the ceremony. That was a literary masterpiece.